Enough is as good as a feast

Many people believe that they will be happy once they arrive at some specific goal they set for themselves. However, more often than not, once you arrive " there" you will still feel dissatisfied, and move your " there" vision to yet another point in the future. By always chasing after another "there," you are never really appreciating what you already have right "here." It is important for human beings to keep soberminded about the age-old drive to look beyond the place where you now stand. On one hand, your life is enhanced by your dreams and aspirations. On the other hand, these drives can pull you farther and farther from your enjoyment of your life right now. By learning the lessons of gratitude and abundance, you can bring yourself closer to fulfilling the challenge of living in the present. 

Gratitude 

To be grateful means you are thankful for and appreciative of what you have and where you are on your path right now. Gratitude fills your heart with the joyful feeling and allows you to fully appreciate everything that arises on your path. As you strive to keep your focus on the present moment, you can experience the full wonder of "here." 

There are many ways to cultivate gratitude. Here are just a few suggestions you may wish to try: 

1. Imagine what your life would be like if you lost all that you had. This will most surely remind you of how much you do appreciate it. 

2. Make a list each day of all that you are grateful for, so that you can stay conscious daily of your blessings. Do this especially when you are feeling as though you have nothing to feel grateful for. Or spend a few minutes before you go to sleep giving thanks for all that you have. 

3. Spend time offering assistance to those who are less fortunate than you, so that you may gain perspective. 

However you choose to learn gratitude is irrelevant. What really matters is that you create a space in your consciousness for appreciation for all that you have right now, so that you may live more joyously in your present moment. 

Abundance 

One of the most common human fears is scarcity. Many people are afraid of not having enough of what they need or want, and so they are always striving to get to a point when they would finally have enough. 

Alan and Linda always dreamed of living "the good life." Both from poor working-class families, they married young and set out to fulfill their mutual goal of becoming wealthy. They both worked very hard for years, amassing a small fortune, so they could move from their two-bedroom home to a palatial seven-bedroom home in the most upscale neighborhood. They focused their energies on accumulating all the things they believed signified abundance: membership in the local exclusive country club, luxury cars, designer clothing, and high-class society friends. No matter how much they accumulated, however, it never seemed to be enough. They were unable to erase the deep fear of scarcity both had acquired in childhood. They needed to learn the lesson of abundance. Then the stock market crashed in 1987, and Alan and Linda lost a considerable amount of money. A bizarre but costly lawsuit depleted another huge portion of their savings. One thing led to another, and they found themselves in a financial disaster. Assets needed to be sold, and eventually they lost the country club membership, the cars, and the house. It took several years and much hard work for Alan and Linda to land on their feet, and though they now live a life far from extravagant, they have taken stock of their lives and feel quite blessed. Only now, as they assess what they have left -- a solid, loving marriage, their health, a dependable income, and good friends -- do they realize that true abundance comes not from amassing, but rather from appreciating. 

Scarcity consciousness arises as a result of the "hole-in-the-soul syndrome." This is when we attempt to fill the gaps in our inner lives with things from the outside world. But like puzzle pieces, you can't fit something in where it does not naturally belong. No amount of external objects, affection, love, or attention can ever fill an inner void. We already have enough, so we should revel in our own interior abundance. 

To Be or Not to Be

"To be or not to be." Outside the Bible, these six words are the most famous in all the literature of the world. They were spoken by Hamlet when he was thinking aloud, and they are the most famous words in Shakespeare because Hamlet was speaking not only for himself but also for every thingking man and woman. To be or not to be—to live or not to live; to live richly and abundantly and eagerly, or to live dully and meanly and scarcely. A philosopher once wanted to know whether he was alive or not, which is a good question for everyone to put to himself occasionally. He answered it by saying, "I think,therefore I am."

But the best definition of existence I ever saw was one given by another philosopher who said: " To be is to be in relations." If this is true, then the more relations a living thing has , the more it is alive. To live abundantly means simply to increase the range and intensity of our relations. Unfortunately we are so constituted that we get to love our routine. But apart from our regular occupation how much are we alive? If you are interested only in your regular occupation,you are alive only to that extent. So far as other things are concerned—poetry and prose, music, pictures, sports, unselfish friendships, politics, international affairs.

Contrariwise, it is true that every time you acquire a new interest---even more, a new accomplishment---you increase your power of life. No one who is deeply interested in a large variety of subjects can remain unhappy; the real pessimist is the person who has lost interest.

Bacon said that a man dies as often as he loses a friend. But we gain new life by contacts, new friends. What is supremely true of living objects is no less true of ideas, which are also alive. Where your thoughts are, there will your life be also. If your thoughts are confined only to your bussiness,only to your physical welfare,only to the narrow circle of the town in which you live, then you live in a narrow circumscribed life. But if you are interested in what is  going on in China, then you are living in China; if you're interested in the characters of a good novel, then you are living with those highly interesting people; if you listen intently to fine music, you are away from your immediate surrounding and living in a world of passion and imagination.

To be or not to be---to live intensely and richly, or merely to exist, that depends on ourselves. Let's widen and intensify our relations. While we live, let us live!

 

By William Lyon Phelps

The 50-percent Theory of Life

I believe in the 50-percent theory. Half the time things are better than normal;the other half,they are worse. I believe life is a pendulum swing. It takes time and experience to understand what normal is, and that gives me the perspective to deal with the surprises of the future.

Let’s benchmark the parameters: yes, I will die. I’ve dealt with the deaths of both parents, a best friend, a beloved boss and cherished pets. Some of these deaths have been violent, before my eyes, of slow and agonizing. Bad stuff, and it belongs at the bottom of the scale.

Then there are those high points: romance and marriage to the right person; having a child and doing those Dad things like coaching my son’s baseball team, padding around the creek in the boat while he’s swimming with the dogs,discovering his compassion so deep it manifests even in his kindness to snails, his imagination so vivid he build a spaceship from a scattered pile of legos.

But there is a vast meadow of life in the middle where the bad and the good flip-flop acrobatically. This is what convinces me to believe in the 50-percent theoty.

One spring I planted corn too early in a bottomlands so flood-prone that neighbors laughed. I felt chagrined at the wasted effort. Summer turned brutal the worst heat wave and drought in my lifetime. The air-conditioner died; the well went dry; the marriage ended; the job lost ; the money gone. I was living lyrics from a country tune——music I loathed. Only a surging Kansas City Royals team buoyed my spirits.

Looking back on that horrible summer, I soon understand that all succeeding good things merely offset the bad. Worse than normal wouldn’t last long. I am owed and savor the halcyon times. They reinvigorate me for the next nasty surprise and offer assurance that I can thrive. The 50-percent theory even helps me see hope beyond my Royals’s recent slump, a field of struggling rookies sown so that some year soon we can reap an October harvest.

For that one blistering summer, the ground moisture was just right, planting early allowed pollination before heat withered the tops,and the lack of rain spared the standing corn from floods. That winter my crib overflowed with corn——fat,healthy three-to-a-stalk ears filled with kernels from heel to tip——while my neighbor’s fields yielded only brown, empty husks.

Although plantings past may have fallen below the 50-percent expectation,and they probably will again in the future, I am still sustained by the crop that flourishes during the drought.

 

BY Steve Porter

Work and Pleasure

To be really happy and really safe, one ought to have at least two or three hobbies, and they must all be real. It is no use starting late in life to say : "I will take an interest in this or that." Such an attempt only aggravates the strain of mental effort. A man may acquire great knowledge of topics unconnected with his daily work, and yet hardly get any benefit or relief. It is no use doing what you like; you have got to like what you do. Broadly speaking,human being may be divided into three classes: those who are toiled to death, those who are worried to death, and those who are bored to death. It is no use offering the manual labourer, tired out with a hard week's sweat and effort, the chance of playing a game of football or baseball on Saturday afternoon. It is no use inviting the politician or the professional or business man , who has been working or worrying about serious things for six days, to work or worry about trifling things at the weekend.

It may also be said that rational, industrious, useful human beings are divided into two classes: first, those whose work is work and whose pleasure is pleasure; and secondly, those whose work and pleasure are one. Of these the former are the majority. They have their compensation. The long hours in the office or the factory bring with them as their reward, not only the means of sustenance, but a keen appetite for pleasure even in its simplest and most modest forms. But Fortune's favoured children belong to the second class. Their life is a natural harmony. For them the working hours are never long enough. Each day is a holiday, and ordinary holidays when they come are grudged as enforced interruptions in an absorbing vacation. Yet to both classes the need of an alternative outlook, of a change of atmosphere,of a diversion of effort, is essential. Indeed, it may well be that those whose work is their pleasure are those who most need the means of banishing it at intervals from their minds.

by Winston Churchill

joke:Things Just Fallin' Off

This morning as I was buttoning my shirt, a button fell off. After
that, I picked up my briefcase, and the handle fell off. Then I went
to open the door, and the doorknob fell off. I went to get into my
car, and the door handle came off in my hand. Now I'm afraid to pee.

Learn To Let Go

With the flow comes the ebb. We have all experienced a friendship that gradually dissolves-one that may have been a part of your life for a long time,but for whatever reason doesn’t fit into it anymore. Less often,these friendships end because of an event,like an insurmountable disagreement. In each case,you make an evaluation of the friendship—either consciously or subconsiously and take steps to make it more comfortably distant in your life.

Accepting the demise of friendship means being realistic about life’s ups and downs. But what of loyalty,you might ask? What of sticking with your friends through thick and thin? Hear this: loyalty is an important,essential trait to being a good friend. However, we feel that taking a solemn oath that a-friend-now-is-a-friend-forever is more restrictive than helpful. People and situations inevitable change in ways that also alter friendships as well. You are entitled to amend your opinion about someone over time, whether or not the person has said or done something to directly affect you,or has simply turned into a person with values different from your own. As your mother might ask , “If your friend jumps off a cliff, do you follow him or her?” A pure loyalist might answer  “yes” . A healthier answer is “no”. Even the best of friends may grow to find that their once-compatible beliefs are no longer in sync. Sometimes that disparity is stronger than any bond of formed earlier in life,and phasing out a friendship on those grounds—something Sally refers to as “spring cleaning” –is okay. In fact, it’s normal and healthy—as sensible as getting rid of something in your closet that doesn’t fit you anymore.

The ebb and flow of friendship is rarely more obvious than when a person from the past comes back into your life. We may seek out these old friends if we’re passing through their city or have circumstantial reason to re-connect; simply curiosity can often fuel the search as well. It is so interesting to find out how someone has changed, or more often than not, stayed the same. It’s miraculous that we sometimes find ourselves in wonderful,adult friendships with people who may have missed several eras of our lives.

The opposite situation can be very unrewarding, if not existentially disappointing, if you aren’t careful to shelter your feelings. Re-connecting with a long lost pal,only to find out that he is no longer the fair, open-minded guy you knew in college,is no fun at all. No matter the turnout, reconnecting with old friends serves many purposes in our own personal self-growth, and can be valued as one of life’s great experiences.

While learning to value the ebb and flow is more a philosophical concept than a hard-and-fast rule,it is key to enjoying all the pleasures of friendship. Without the acceptance that friendships, like life, take twists and turns that aren’t always pleasant, you risk falling into an endless cycle of getting hurt or feeling embittered. Friendship come and go,and that’s entirely okay.

from "the art of friendship" by Roger Horchow and Sally Horchow

附上自译文：

学会放手

潮落会有潮起，我们都经历过友谊的逐渐结束消失——这个可能在很长时间里面会成为我们生活的一部分，但无论出于什么原因不适合它了。很少的时候，这些友谊仅仅因为一些小事而结束，就像一个无法克服的意见不一。在每一次，你自觉地或潜意识地对友谊作出评价，而且采取措施让它在你的生活中处于更舒服的距离。

接受友谊的结束意味着生活浮沉的现实，但也许你会问：什么是忠诚？什么让你坚持和你朋友在一起？请听清楚这个：作为好朋友，忠诚是一个很重要而且必不可少的特征。然而，我们感觉到，抱着一个“现在是朋友就永远是朋友”的神圣誓言对我们只是一种限制而没有任何的帮助。人们和环境无可避免会发生各种各样的变化，友谊也一样。你有权随着时间的过去而改变你对朋友的看法，无论这个人是否说了或做了什么事直接影响到你，或者仅是这个人的价值观跟你不一样了。就好象你母亲可能会问你：如果你的朋友跳进一个悬崖里，你会不会跟着跳？一个纯粹的忠诚主义者会回答“是”，一个更有益更好的回答是“不”。 即使最好的朋友也会随着长大最终发现他们曾经很合拍的信仰不再同步。有时候，相异是更好的纽带，这在生命的早期就已经形成，而在一些场合中逐渐淘汰一些朋友是正常的——就如Sally 提到的“spring cleaning” （春天大扫除）。事实上，那是很平常的，很健康的，就如在你的衣橱里面去掉一些不再适合你的东西一样合理。

友谊的结束和开始不会比一个人从过去回到你的生活中更明显，我们会找到这些老朋友如果我们经过他们的城市或者因为不可知的某些理由而重新联系，或仅仅是好奇心激起我们去寻找。当我们发现一个人发生了多大的变化是如此的有趣，或者往往没有任何变化。有时候发现我们自己跟一个可能已经在我们的生活中消失了好几个世纪的人有一段极好成熟的友谊，那简直是一个奇迹。

如果不想失望，如果你不在乎掩饰你的情感，这种对立的事情是非常不值得去做的。重新跟一个消失很久的朋友联系，只会发现他不再是你在大学里面认识的那个公正而思想开明的家伙，那根本一点乐趣都没有。无论结果是怎样，跟一个老朋友联系在我们的个人成长中起到很好的作用，而且会成为我们生活中的一个宝贵经验。

当学会如何看待潮起潮落，这是一个比务必遵守的规则更有哲学性的概念，它是享受友谊所有快乐的关键。如果没有接受友谊就像生活那样不总是欢乐还会有曲折，你将会陷进一个没完没了的受伤或怨恨循环中的险境。

而友谊的来来去去，是完全正常的。

Find the balance

In a health friendship,the give-and-take of listening is balanced. Day-to-day exchanges are epually about each other's experiences and feelings. When you have a more serious need to talk, your friend will happily take on the listening role, knowing that when she has a problem, you will be all ears. Roger's friend Jacques has an amusing take on this aspect of their relationship:at the beginning of their weekly lunch,he asks, "Do you want to be the baby today? Or do you want to be the father?"

You may not discuss the balance as openly,but you should be aware of it-and avoid letting it tilt too far in one direction. Being a good listener does not mean that all you do is listen;it means that you respond sensitively,and share your own relevant experiences. A relationship in which one person does all the talkingand the other all the listening is a shrink-patient relationship,not a friendship!

from<the art of friendship> by Roger Horchow

Listen before you speak

  A real conversation cannot be one-sided. When talking with a friend, or potential friend, take the time to listen first, and worry later about being heard yourself. Your generositywill be reciprocated.

  The foundation for a meaningful friendship, one that is based on  mutual respect and caring, starts the moment you meet someone. At that point, you are presented not only with that person's words, but also with lots of other information: his or her tone of voice, body language, colloquialisms, and mannerisms. The way you absorb and respond to that wealth of information can make or break the new relationship. If someone senses that you are not making the effort to listen or are not really interested in what he or she is saying, he or she will probably just stop talking to you. But if you make an effort to genuinely hear and understand, you will generate further conversation--and a real connection. Listen up!

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In your next conversation, note any tendency on your part to drift away while the other person is speaking, and focus your attention on their words.

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from <The art of friendship>, Roger Horchow, Sally Horchow

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new words:

generosity

reciprocate

colloquialism

genuinely

tendency

proverb

Humor has been well defined as thinking in fun while feeling in
earnest. (Mark Twain , American novelist )
幽默被人正确地解释为"以诚挚表达感受，寓深思于嬉笑"。(美国小说家 马克*吐温)

The decline of literature indicates the decline of a nation ; the two
keep in their downward tendency.( Johan Wolfgang von Goethe , German
poet )
文学的衰落表明一个民族的衰落。这两者走下坡路的时间是齐头并进的。(德国诗人 歌德 . J . W .)

Activity is the only road to knowledge . (George Bernard Shaw ,
British dramatist)
行动是通往知识的唯一道路。 (英国剧作家 肖伯纳. G.)

A great part to the information I have was acquired by looking up
something and finding something else on the way .(Adams Franklin ,
American humorist )
我的大部分知识都是这样获得的：在寻找某个资料时意外的发现了另外的资料。(美国幽默作家 富兰克林. A.)

Imagination is more important than knowledge .(Albert Einstein ,
American scientist )
想象力比知识更为重要。 (美国科学家 爱因斯坦. A. )

Eternal truths will be neither true nor eternal unless they have fresh
meaning for every new social situation . (Franklin Roosevelt ,
American president )
永恒的真理如果不在新的社会形势下赋予新的意义,要么就不是真理,要么就不是永恒的。 (美国总统罗斯福 . F.)

Histories make men wise ; poems witty; the mathematics subtle; natural
philosophy deep ; moral grave ; logic and rhetoric able to contend
.(Francis Bacon , British philosopher )
历史使人明智；诗词使人灵秀；数学使人周密；哲学使人深刻；伦理使人庄重；逻辑修辞学使人善辨。(英国哲学家培根)

If you don't learn to think when you are young , you may never learn
.(Thomas Edison , American inventor )
如果你年轻时就没有学会思考，那么就永远学不会思考。(美国发明家 爱迪生 . T.)

If you want to understand today , you have to search yesterday .(Pearl
Buck , American female writer )
想要懂得今天，就必须研究昨天。(美国女作家 赛珍珠)

Ordinary people merely think how they shall spend their time ; a man
of talent tries to use it . (Arthur Schopenhauer , German philosopher
)
普通人只想到如何度过时间，有才能的人设法利用时间。(德国哲学家 叔本华. A. )

The time of life is short ; to spend that shortness basely, it would
be too long . (William Shakespeare , British dramatist )
人生苦短，若虚度年华，则短暂的人生就太长了。(英国剧作家 莎士比亚. W.)

Happiness lies not in the mere possession of money ; it lies in the
joy of achievement , in the thrill of creative effort .(Franklin
Roosevelt , American president )
幸福不在于拥有金钱，而在于获得成就时的喜悦以及产生创造力的激情。(美国总统 罗斯福. F.)

To really understand a man we must judge him in misfortune .(Bonaparte
Napoleon , French emperor )
要真正了解一个人，需在不幸中考察他。 (法国皇帝 拿破仑. B .)

All the splendor 1 in the world is not worth a good friend .(Voltaire
, French thinker)
人世间所有的荣华富贵不如一个好朋友。 (法国思想家 伏尔泰)

Sloth , like rust , consumes faster than labor wears .(Benjamin
Franklin , American president)
懒惰像生锈一样，比操劳更能消耗身体。 (美国总统 富兰克林. B.)

If you wish to succeed , you should use persistence as your good
friend , experience as your reference , prudence as your brother and
hope as your sentry. (Thomas Edison , American inventor )
如果你希望成功，当以恒心为良友、以经验为参谋、以谨慎为兄弟、以希望为哨兵。 (美国发明家 爱迪生. T.)

Only those who have the patience to do simple things perfectly ever
acquire the skill to do difficult things easily . (Friedrich Schiller
, German Dramatist and poet).
只有有耐心圆满完成简单工作的人，才能够轻而易举地完成困难的事。(德国剧作家、诗人 席勒. F.)

The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look
for circumstances they want , and if they cannot find them .they make
them. (George Bernard Shaw , British dramatist )
在这个世界上，取得成功的人是那些努力寻找机会的人，如果找不到机会，他们就去创造机会。(英国剧作家肖伯纳. G.)

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Change your day-to-day habits

We all have regular routines we follow and ingrained patterns of
behavior . Here are some suggestions for changing your day-to-day
habits to allow for more spontaneous and fun meetings:
Take time rith breakfast instead of rushing.Stop at a different coffee
shop. Instead of sitting hunched over your coffee reading the
newspaper ,make a point of saying hello to one person.
Lunch is the perfect time of day to take a break from your
routine.Pack a lunch and go to a local park to eat it. Enjoy the
noontime sun and be open to connections.
Dinner of cocktail hour is the most popular time to ger together with
friends.Shake up the routine and try a new restaurant or bar .Organize
a cocktail party and invite a new acquaintance.
Although the shortest distance between two points is a straight line
,it can also be the least interesting route.Try a different path or
vary your mode of transportation.
If you might have fallen into the habit of watching television or
reading a book to unwind;instead consider a visit your local bookstore
to browse.or find a comfortable park bench and watch the sunset
instead of TV.
Answering your daily quota of e-mails can be more than simply
routine.Take this opportunity to reconnect by sending a message to a
friend with whom you've lost touch. Even beter,handwrite a card and
send it the old-fashioned way.
If you like to read ,join a book club.
If you're normally a homebody who rents movies, invite some
acquaintances over for a movie night.
The people who live in your neighborhood,condo,or building already
share something in common with you. Introduce yourself :many lasting
friendships have been formed over the backyard fence or in the
apartment building foyer.
Your work brings you in contact with a multitude of people . Instead
of a quick nod, take the time for an introduction that might lead to a
meaningful connection.
Make a plan to meet in person a work colleague you know only through
the phone or e-mail.
Stepping outside your comfortable boundaries might cause an edge of
trepidation or nervousness. Accept the challenge! Wint each new
encounter, the next becomes easier.

------from <the art of friendship> Roger Horchow and Sally Horchow

爱你的一百个理由 in English

   1. 因为爱你 所以爱你

    because i love you，so i love you

    2. 因为你爱我 所以我爱你

    because you love me，so i love you

    3. 因为世界上没有人比我更爱你

    because no one in the world love you more than me

    4. 因为无时无刻想著你

    because i miss you every moment

    5. 因为你的温柔体贴

    because of your gentleness and considerate

    6. 因为你的坦白率真

    because of your frankness

    7. 因为你那可爱的笑容

    because of your lovely smile

    8. 因为你那迷人的眼睛

    because of your charming eyes

    9. 因为你的一举一动都让我著迷

    because your every action make me fascinated

    10. 因为你所散发出来的高贵气质

    because of your noble disposition

    11. 因为抱著你的感觉是这么温暖

    because of the warmth when i hold you in my arms

    12. 因为一个人寂寞的时候只有你陪著我

    because only you accompany me when i am lonely

    13. 因为爱你让我充满自信

    because loving you makes me confident

    14. 因为你的任性

    because of your wilfulness

    15. 因为照顾你是我的责任

    because it is my responsibility to look after you

    16. 因为有些是不必说出来你就能明白

    because of something you can understand without my explaination

    17. 因为只有你最了解我的个性

    because only you know of my personality best

    18. 因为只有你能包容我的一切

    because only you can tolerate everything of mine

    19. 因为没有你我就不知该如何活下去

    because i dont know how to continue my life without you

    20. 因为有你我的生活充满快乐

    because of you , my life is full of happines

    21 因为有你情人节才有花可送

    because of having you ,i can send flowers on Valentine

    22 因为所有的花都不及你漂亮

    because no flower is more beautiful than you

    23 因为我眼中只有你一个

    because i only have you in my heart

    24 因为即使海枯石烂我只爱你一个

    the seas may run dry and the rocks crumble,you are the only person i love

    25 因为喜欢过马路时牵著你的感觉

    because i love the feeling of holding your hands,when we cross the road

    26 因为感谢上天赐予我一个独一无二的你

    because thank the god to bestow unique person-you

    27 因为有你我就满足了

    because i am satisfied with you

    28 因为只有你陪我渡过不如意的时候

    because only you accompany me to pass unhappy days

    29 因为时间一分一秒过去爱你的感觉却与日剧增

    because although time passes by minute and second, the sentiments of loving you grow with each passing days

    30 因为我们俩最谈的来

    because we two get along well with each other

    31 因为你让我有保护你的念头

    because you make me have the thought of protecting you

    32 因为初见你的感觉是前所未有的

    because the feeling of seeing you for the first time never existed before

    33 因为你是我的梦中情人

    because you are the lover in my dream

    34 因为一见锺情在我的内心燃烧著

    because the feeling of falling in love at the first sight burns in my heart

    35 因为我是你倾吐心事的对象

    because you are the only person who listens to my mind

    36 因为你让我非常放心

    because you set my mind at ease

    37 因为有你让我对明天充满期待

    because i am full of expection for tomorrow with you

    38 因为我已不再对任何人动心

    because you make me never open my heart to others

    39 因为爱你是最温柔的不自由

    i love you because to me you are a gentle but "no freedom"

    40 因为我俩一起看天看海看日落日出

    because we enjoy the sky, the sea and the sunrise, the sunset together

   41 因为沙滩印著我俩的足迹

    because there are our footprints in the sand beach

    42 因为只有你肯陪我看恐怖片

    because only you like to accompany me to watch horrible movies

    43 因为你曾为感人剧情而哭的淅沥哗啦的

    because you were ever moved to tears by the play

    44 因为我们侧夜长谈分享彼此

    because we talk all night and enjoy each other

    45 因为我们是天生一对

    because we were born of a couple

    46 因为爱过你就好

    because it is fine of experiencing love you

    47 因为只愿等你一个人

    because I only want to wait for you

    48 因为有你我看到美好的未来

    because you make me see the beautiful future

    49 因为有你我看到了其他人羡慕的眼光

    because of having you ,i see the envious sights of others

    50 因为你让我体验了爱情的伟大

    because i experience the great love with you

    51 因为你的善良

    because of your kind heart

    52 因为有我就有你

    because where there is me ,there is you

    53 因为你让我感到身为一个男人的骄傲

    because of you ,i am proud of being a man

    54 因为任何事与爱你抵触者无效

    because nothing will happen,if it is contradict with loving you

    55 因为除了我再也找不到另一个与你相配的男人

    because except me you can't find another perfect match

    56 因为我们俩曾互许终身

    because we ever promised to be life-long companions

    57 因为我们要做七世情人

    because we plan to be lovers of generations

    58 因为我要带你环游世界

    because i will show you around the world

    59 因为我要让每个地方都留下我俩的回忆

    because i want every place to have our two person's memory

    60 因为我要继续写爱你的理由

    because i will continue to write the reasons of loving you

    61 因为我不能放弃爱你的念头

    because i cant give up the ideas of loving you

    62 因为我恨没有早一些认识你

    because i regret not knowing you earlier

    63 因为你让我追的好辛苦

    because it is hard to chase you

    64 因为我要打败其他条件比我好的人

    because i want to defeat all the others of better conditions than me

    65 因为你选择了我

    because you choose me

    66 因为我发誓要好好照顾你

    because i promised to take good care of you

    67 因为我了解你对我的心

    because you know of my heart

    68 因为你喜欢放风筝

    because you love flying kites

    69 因为你的打扮很有个性

    because your make-up has a stong character

    70 因为我有占有你的私心

    because i have the selfish idea of owning you

    71 因为你喜欢打排球

    because you like playing volleyball

    72 因为你喜欢唱歌

    because you like singing songs

    73 因为你的生日快到了

    because your birthday is coming

    74 因为你喜欢看书

    because you like reading books

    75 因为你的开朗

    because of your sanguine disposition

    76 因为我们分隔两地却两心相系

    because we miss each others even if we live in differet places

    77 因为身边有你的欢笑

    because of your cheerful smile around me

    78 因为你喜欢贝壳

    because you love seashells

    79 因为一颗心只能爱你一个

    because one heart can only love you one

    80 因为没有人痴的像我

    because no one is infatuated like me

    81 因为你的心将我淹没了

    because i am addicted in your love

    82 因为有你我就不孤单

    because of you ,i am not lonely any more

    83 因为上辈子我们在一起

    because last generation we were lovers

    84 因为爱你是我甜蜜的负担

    because loving you is my sweet burden

    85 因为你我拒绝了其他的仰慕者

    because we two reject others

    86 因为我的朋友都叫我要好好的把握

    because my friends ask me to hold it well

    87 因为不爱你实在太过分了

    because not loving you is excessive

    88 因为不爱你实在太对不起自己了

    because i feel sorry for myself,if i don't love you

    89 因为不爱你我的朋友会打我

    because my friends will beat me ,if i don't love you

    90 因为我的目标只有一个...爱你

    because i only have one aim-love you

    91 因为说了那么多爱你的理由我不得不爱你

    because i have said so many reasons of loving you,i have to love you

    92 因为我渴望101次求婚的结局

    because i am eager to the result of the 101 proposal

    93 因为我期待每一个明天的到来

    because i expect the coming of every tomorrow

    94 因为我喜欢等你电话的感觉

    because i love the feeling of waiting for your telephones

    95 因为我有千千万万的理由爱你

    because i have thousands of reasons for loving you

    96 因为我只选择最爱你的一百个理由

    because i only choose these one hundred reasons to show my best love to you

    97 因为我特地在情人节这一天对你表白

    because i chose specially to assert my love to you on Valentine's Day

    98 因为我已经写的很累了

    because i feel very tired when i write here

    99 因为我要向世界大声说

    because i want to announce to the world loudly

    100 因为我爱你!!!

    because i love you!!

Joke:NO SEX TONIGHT!

　　I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so
　　much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have
　　never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.
　　
　　FOR EXAMPLE: One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into
　　bed.
　　
　　Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says "I don't feel
　　like it, I just want you to hold me."
　　
　　I said "WHAT??!! What was that?!"
　　
　　So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear...
　　"You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me
　　to satisfy your physical needs as a man." She responded to my puzzled look
　　by saying, "Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in
　　the bedroom?"
　　
　　Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.
　　
　　The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with
　　her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big
　　unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on
　　several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one to
　　take so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to
　　compliment her new clothes, so I said lets get a pair for each outfit. We
　　went onto the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond
　　earrings. Let me tell you...she was so excited. She must have thought I was
　　one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because
　　she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't even know how to play
　　tennis. I think I threw her for a loop when I said, "That's fine, honey."
　　She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement.
　　Smiling with excited anticipation she finally said, "I think this is all
　　dear, let's go to the cashier."
　　
　　I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, "No honey, I don't feel
　　like it."
　　
　　Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled
　　WHAT?"
　　
　　I then said "honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You're
　　just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy
　　your shopping needs as a woman." And just when she had this look like she
　　was going to kill me, I added, "Why can't you just love me for who I am and
　　not for the things I buy you?"
　　
　　Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either.

Joke: five hundred times!

Five Hundred Times

　　In the traffic court of a large mid-western city, a young lady was brought before the judge to answer a ticket given her for driving through a red light. She explained to his honor that she was a school teacher and requested an immediate disposal of her case in order that she might hasten on to her classes. A wild gleam came into the judge's eye. "You are a school teacher, eh?" said he. "Madam, I shall realize my lifelong ambition. Sit down at that table and write 'I went through a red light' five hundred times."

joke:The Shiny-Walled Box Thingie

An Amish boy and his father were visiting a nearby mall. They were
amazed by almost everything they saw, but especially by two shiny
silver walls that moved apart and back together again by themselves.

The lad asked, "What is this, father?"

The father, having never seen an elevator, responded, "I have no idea
what it is."

While the boy and his father were watching wide-eyed, an old lady in a
wheelchair rolled up to the moving walls and pressed a button. The
walls opened and the lady rolled between them into a small room. The
walls closed and the boy and his father watched as small circles lit
up above the walls.

The walls opened up again and a beautiful twenty-four-year-old woman
stepped out.

The father looked at his son anxiously and said, "Go get your mother."

joke: teacher and students

　　A teacher asked a child, "If your mother cuts two oranges and two bananas into ten pieces, what will you get?"
　　And the student said, "Fruit salad!"

the cat lover

One day, a fairy visits a lonely widow and says that she is there to give her three wishes.

''I wish I was 21 and beautiful!'' The wish is instantly granted.

''I wish I had a million dollars!'' The wish is granted.

''I wish that my cat here were the most handsome guy in the world and was madly in love with me.'' The wish is granted. The now young lady and her man go inside. They start to cuddle, and the man looks at her.

''Aren't you upset that you had me fixed?''

Joke: now we run!

A priest is walking down the street one day, when he notices a very small boy trying to press a doorbell on a house across the street.
However, the boy is very small and the doorbell is too high for him to reach.
After watching the boy's efforts for some time, the priest moves closer to the boy's position. He steps smartly across the street, walks up behind the little fellow, places his hand kindly on the child's shoulder and gives the doorbell a sold ring.
Crouching down to the child's level, the priest smiles and asks, "And now what, my little man?"
The boy replies, "Now we run!"

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new words:
crouch: Crouching down to the child's level...

What's Green Timer?

What's Green Timer?

Green Timer(URL: http://code.google.com/p/greentimer, Chinese name: 绿色报时器) is a little software that can notify you to do something, by displays a little message bolloon in the rightdown position of you screen. It can notity you to have a rest every one hours, or notify you to call a customer tomorrow morning.

So, you won't forget anything important now.

Green Timer aim at a good time managment habit for you. When you can arrange your time rightly, you will find out that your job turnning easy, and you may find that you can spend more time staying with your family. So we call it "Green Timer".
You can learn more of time managment by Green Timer in our wiki:
http://code.google.com/p/greentimer/wiki/GreenIdeal


more info:

Green Timer Download Page:
http://code.google.com/p/greentimer/downloads/list

User Forum:
(Google) http://groups.google.com/group/greentimer
(douban) http://www.douban.com/group/greentimer


Rational:
http://www.gtdlife.cn/

JOKE: Girl Power!

Girl Power!

　　A little boy is playing with his new football and a little girl asks if she can play. He tells her, "No. These are for boys."
　　
　　The little girl runs into the house and tells her mother. The next day the girl sticks her tongue out at the boy and waves her new football in his face. The little boy angrily points to his boy's bike and says, "Oh yeah? Well, only boys can get these!"
　　
　　But the next day, the little girl has the same bike. The little boy gets furious, pulls down his pants, points to his unit, and says, "Look, only boys have these and your mom can't buy you one!"
　　
　　The next day he walks by and the little girl promptly pulls up her dress, points to her bits, and proclaims, "My mother tells me that as long as I have one of these, I can have as many of those as I want."

Everything I know about women . . .

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article3736523.ece

Everything I know about women . . .

. . . Our correspondent learnt from his two-year-old niece � from not making her cry to the art of gift giving

Tad Safran

As a single man in my mid-thirties, I've spent 20 years trying to understand women, with mixed results. It wasn't until six months ago, however, that I was given a clear insight into how the female mind works.

It came in the form of Lou-Lou, my two-year-old niece. I know, as a grown-up, that the onus is on me to teach her useful stuff rather than the other way around, but in this case, the instruction was mutual. I taught her how to wink, blow raspberries, burp and count to 10, sort of. "One, two, three, seven, nine, ten", which is good enough for me, as, personally, I've always thought the numbers four, five, six and eight were overrated.

In return, I learnt more about women in two months than I had gleaned on my own in two decades. This does not mean, by the way, that I think women are like two-year-olds and should be treated as such. I love my niece. I respect my niece. I'd dive on an unexploded grenade for my niece, and not just to amuse her. I would only dive on it if there was real danger of it exploding and hurting her. Women are all individuals and I'm making generalisations, but in the two-year-old Lou-Lou is the undiluted, unaffected essence � the "id" � of womanhood. Here's what I've learnt.

1 Ignore them

1If I come into a room and bounce up to Lou-Lou like a clown, trying to amuse and entertain, she blanks me completely. It's as if I don't exist. If I walk straight past her, however, I guarantee she will call out my name and want to play with me.

2 Bribe them

Gifts work. Preferably something noisy or sparkly. With Lou-Lou, that means stuffed animals that sing or sequined hair grips. With grown women, I suppose that equates to, say, cars and jewellery.

3 Compliment them

I've mistakenly always held that compliments are like diamonds: valuable only for their scarcity. Flood the market and they lose all value. Not so. Lou-Lou poos in her nappy, everyone cheers � as if she just came up with a workable solution to world hunger � and she beams like a lighthouse. The same works with grown women, although, of course, only the general principle applies rather than the specific example given here. (I learnt this one the hard way.)

4 Listen to them

I've spent my life trying to preempt what women want. I needn't have bothered. If I just pay attention, Lou-Lou will tell me exactly what she wants: eat, dance, doll, jump, run, sing, play, read. Then all I have to do is organise it. How much simpler my life would have been if I had listened and acted accordingly.

5 Apologise

It doesn't matter what you've done. It doesn't matter if you don't even know what you've done. I might have slighted Lou-Lou by putting the wrong doll in the pram. What seems to you or me like a minor infraction is, to her, on a par with genocide. The best policy is to throw yourself on her mercy and beg forgiveness. But you must sound sincere. You don't have to be sincere, just sound sincere. This is so elementary, yet how many men ignore this advice?

6 Let them do it

Whatever "it" is. No matter how ridiculous it may seem to you, let her do it. When Lou-Lou gets an idea into her mind, there's no talking her out of it. In fact, be supportive, encourage her even. Then sit back and hope she discovers for herself that it was a stupid idea. The downside is that she might decide it was an excellent idea. One day, I found myself playing dolls' tea party for two whole hours and drank so many cups of imaginary tea, I was imaginary peeing all afternoon.

7 Don't tell them what to do

The best way to guarantee that she doesn't do what I want is by telling her to do it. The clever thing is to make it seem like her idea � and make it seem fun. One of my proudest moments was convincing Lou-Lou that watching the rugby World Cup final would be more fun than playing in the sandpit.

8 Don't complain to them

This is a tricky one. What I mean by this is, don't burden her with your petty problems. When I complain to Lou-Lou about a bad meeting or a sore back, she couldn't care less, but if there's genuinely something wrong, she will instinctively sense it and, with one hug, pick me up more than I thought possible.

9 Don't argue

There's simply no point. You will never win, and if you do win, it will be a hollow victory because of the mood she'll be in for a long time afterwards. Quite frankly, who needs the aggro? This leads to my final and most important point:

10 Don't make them cry

There is nothing more distressing than watching Lou-Lou's enormous, innocent brown eyes overflow with tears, while her mouth becomes a gaping, drooling, mournful air-raid siren that pierces through to the core of my heart. I'm utterly defenceless when she cries. And there's no known antidote. Food? Monkey impressions? A pony? Stabbing myself in the eye with a chopstick? I will agree to anything to stop her crying � and doesn't she.