The most obvious connections are based on areas of mutual interest. If you have a friend who is passionate about his collection of Hopi pottery, it's an obvious step to introduce him to your archeologist friend who is researching the Hopi tribe. But keep in your mind that many a successful match is based on the theory that opposites attact. Perhaps your outdoorsy friend from work will make a connection with the poet who never leaves her house. Arrange for them to meet and be prepared for a surprise.
If you plan a one-on-one meeting for friends, it might b wise to keep the exposure limited. A quick coffee date or a lunch could be the appropriate venue. That way, if, Heaven forbid, they meet and discover an instant antipathy, they won't have to spend too much time in each other's company.
A group setting, like a dinner party, is another excellent way to introduce people to each other. Don't assume that your job is done when you send out the invitations. When you make introductions at the party, be sure to give these potential friends a basic for communication beyond small talk. In these situations, you are the connector and, therefore, have the obligation initiate the conversation.
--from "The art of friend",Roger Horchow & Sally Horchow.
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